Broaden Your View (Marriage Match)

Question:
I am in my late thirties, and still single. I have met dozens of guys, but none are right for me.

I know what you are going to say: I am too fussy. But I can't just settle on something, half good. Where is, the man of my dreams?
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Answer:
It doesn't make sense. You are a wonderful person, with so much to offer, why are you still alone?

There could be many reasons, why someone may find it hard to find a partner. But I think in your case, the answer is simple. You're married already.

You are not available, because you are involved in a longstanding intimate relationship, with an imaginary Mr. Right.
You have an exact picture in your mind, of the perfect man; and you are so in love with that picture, that you are not open to anyone else. No matter how great the guy is, he can't compare to your dream.

You have become stuck in a bubble, with your imaginary love, and are not really open to real people.

So you haven't really met, dozens of guys - you never actually meet anyone. You see them not for who they are, but rather for who they are not - the imaginary Mr. Right.
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A relationship means, connecting with someone else, someone who is not you. You can't have a relationship, with a figment of your own imagination; or with your own assumed caricature, of another person.

You need to step out of your imagination, suspend your prejudices, and really open yourself to someone else. Let yourself be surprised. Otherwise, the man of your dreams will stay right where he is - in your dreams.
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I apologize for being harsh on you. I just want to burst your bubble, because there is a real person out there, waiting for you to meet him.

He deserves it, so do you.